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Why I didn’t know my weight during pregnancy and postpartum

I had never really thought about pregnancy until I got married. And then I thought about it all the time. And I was scared. Like really scared. I pushed off getting pregnant for as long as I could due to that fear. What was I […]

Dear Dieter

Dear Dieter, You told me that you were thinking about going on another diet, and my heart broke for you. You didn’t ask for my professional opinion and so instead of giving you all the reasons that you shouldn’t do it, I listened and let […]

The Restricting/Binging Cycle

So what is the Restrict/Binge Cycle?

There are many reasons that we may binge (stress, trauma, mental illness, boredom, etc) but I’m focusing on the restriction-caused binge. A restriction-caused binge is caused by– you guessed it- restricting. You may be restricting a specific food, food group, or your overall calorie intake. For example, you may be setting yourself up to binge by not eating enough throughout the day and restricting your calories. By the time dinner comes, you are so hungry that all your food rules go out the window. In your hungry state, judgment is impaired and impulsivity increases leading to a food frenzy and you end up in a pile of shame and guilt. The next day, you wake up feeling very full from the previous night’s intake, tell yourself that you’re going to be “good”, and start the restricting all over again. It’s a vicious cycle. 

Is there a difference between overeating and binging?

Yes, there is! Overeating is when one occasionally has an extra helping even though they may feel full. Binging is when one eats a larger amount of food in a short period of time than most people would eat under similar circumstances. This episode of eating is often marked by feelings of lack of control, disgust with oneself, and significant guilt, shame, and regret.

What Happens When We Restrict/Binge?

When you tell yourself that you can’t have a food and you restrict and avoid it, that food immediately gains power over you. We become preoccupied with the food and lose our ability to listen to our bodies because there are other distractions in our brain. It is human nature to want what we can’t have right? Our brain is going to be constantly thinking about the “bad foods” that we can’t have. When we finally give ourselves full permission to eat any food, it loses it’s power over us and we are able to begin learning how to intuitively eat.

How Do I Stop the Cycle?

  • Get rid of your good/bad foods list- when you can see all food as equal, it loses power over you
  • Give yourself permission to eat all foods- eat it, enjoy it, taste it! Be fully present.
  • Don’t skip meals- skipping meals sets you up to binge later on
  • Eat consistently and regularly throughout the day
  • Stop dieting!- The dieting world has so many food rules and restrictions which just set you up to binge and are not helpful in achieving food freedom
  • Honor your body’s hunger and fullness cues
  • Practice mindful eating- check in with your body during mealtimes to see how it’s feeling
  • Immediately give yourself grace, forgiveness, and compassion in those times when you may find yourself binging- you’re not a failure. I promise.
  • Let yourself grow and learn in your journey with no judgement or criticism

My Experience

Chocolate Chip Cookies, mmhmm. I have always loved them, and all of my friends/family know it. Cookies have been gifted to me many times over the years. Cookies were always there when life got hard.

But on a more serious note, my relationship with cookies has had some ups and downs. Even though I LOVED (ahem, LOVE, present-tense) cookies, I remember the days when I thought that cookies were my enemy. When I ate a cookie, I wasn’t following my strict food rules. I would tell myself over and over that I couldn’t eat them, avoiding the chocolaty goodness for a period of time, and then it would all become too much. I would binge on them, eating my chocolate chip cookies like there was no tomorrow. It left me feeling so ashamed and so full of guilt, I couldn’t look myself in the eye. Time and time again, this restricting/binging cycle that I was in cemented my belief that I wasn’t strong enough, I didn’t have any control, I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t worthy of love, and that I was a hard-core failure. Many of you may have also had experiences similar to this. It is very difficult to break any pattern, any habit, but by following the guidelines listed above, I was finally able to find my food freedom. And I know you can find yours. No matter where you are on the food-relationship spectrum, I know recovery is possible. 

Love,

Kaylee

 

Self-Care: Why is it so important?

Self-care is one, maybe even two, of the legs of a three-legged stool holding my philosophy of how to achieve food freedom. Self-care is so important, and in this crazy world, it is easily pushed aside. When you start to engage in a higher level of […]

My Eating Disorder

Trigger Warning: Article mentions topics of weight, eating disorders, and disordered eating.     I have been thinking about writing this blog post for a long time now…. It’s scary for me to post this, but it’s time. It’s time to own my own story. This generation […]

Crockpot Mexican Quinoa

This recipe is seriously one of our favorites. We make at least a few times a month. It’s satisfying, cheap, and nutritious! You can’t beat that! And an added plus it’s so quick to make! I mean, seriously 15 minutes, tops. Awesome, right??
Look how beautiful it is. Shout out to my husband who made dinner while I was at work. Seee?? It’s so easy that your husbands can make it. P.S. That wasn’t a dis on all husbands out there… Mine is a WAY better cook than me.

                                             

One of the best things about this recipe is that it is SO adaptable! If you’re feeling meat, toss in some frozen chicken breasts (allow more cooking time) or if you want more beans or different spices, then toss ’em in!

Crockpot Mexican Quinoa

Ingredients

2¼ cups vegetable broth
1 cup uncooked quinoa
15 oz can black beans
15 oz can corn kernels
14.5 oz can diced tomatoes
½ chopped green bell pepper
½ medium onion, chopped
2 cloves garlic
1 Tbs chili powder
½ tsp crushed red pepper flakes
1 tsp salt
1 tsp ground black pepper
1 tsp ground cumin
1 tsp oregano

Instructions

Add all ingredients to crockpot.
Turn on crockpot:)
Cook on high for 2.5-3 hours or low for 4-5 hours
Top with cheese, sour cream, cilantro, avocado, warm corn tortillas, or tortilla chips
Serves ~8
Enjoy!

As seen on http://www.julieseatsandtreats.com/slow-cooker-mexican-quinoa-bake/2/

Love,
Kaylee

Let me know if you guys like it in the comments below!!